Welcoming a new baby into the family can be an exciting time, but it can also be an emotional and challenging experience for your older child. It is common for toddlers to feel jealous and insecure when a new baby arrives, and this may result in attention-seeking behaviour, acting out, and even aggression towards the baby. As a parent, it is important to understand and manage your toddler’s feelings of jealousy towards your new baby. In this blog, we will provide you with tips on how to support your toddler during this transition period and help them cope with jealousy towards their sibling. 

Talk to Your Toddler About the Changes 

Your toddler may not understand why another child is receiving attention from you and other family members. It is important to have an open and honest conversation with your toddler prior to delivering the baby,and explain the changes that will occur. Show them pictures of newborns and talk about the different feelings they may experience. Reassure them that they will still receive the same love and attention and that the new baby doesn’t replace them. 

Involve Your Toddler in Baby Preparations 

Involving your toddler in baby preparations can create a sense of excitement and anticipation. Ask them to help pick out baby names or choose clothes for their new sibling. You can also encourage your toddler to create a special gift for the baby, which will help them feel involved and valued. When a baby is born, allow your toddler to participate in caring for the baby such as holding the baby, singing to the baby or helping with nappy changes. 

Spend Quality Time with Your Toddler 

Your toddler still needs your attention and affection, even with the arrival of a new baby. Make sure you set aside some one-on-one time daily with your toddler to play or read books with them. Take them out for walks, or run errands together. This will remind them that they are still an important family member and provide an opportunity for them to express themselves. 

Provide Reassurance and Praise 

Toddlers need praise and reassurance to build their self-confidence. Tell your toddler how amazing they are and how proud you are to be their parent. Praising them and acknowledging their achievements will remind them that you love them and that they are still important. Additionally, pointing out the positives in the relationship between your toddler and baby, such as when the toddler gives the baby a toy, will help reinforce how the two are a team, rather than rivals. 

Encourage Positive Behaviour 

Positive reinforcement can help encourage good behaviour towards siblings. Praise your toddler when they show kindness towards the baby. You can also establish a reward system for positive behaviours, such as sharing their toys or being gentle when interacting with the baby. Through these rewards, you can teach your child to develop empathy and encourage them to continue positive behaviour. 

 In conclusion, jealousy is a common emotion for a toddler to experience when a new baby arrives.  Remember, toddlers are adjusting to their new reality with a sibling, so be patient and understanding. With your support, your toddler can learn how to accept the arrival of their new baby sibling and grow into a responsible older sister or brother. 

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